The Messenger of Allah (sallalahu ‘alayhi wasallam) said, “The best amongst you is the one who is best towards his family and I am the best amongst you towards my family...” (al-Tirmithi)
A family of parents, spouse, children and grandchildren Is a special gift from Allah who has enjoined Mankind to have kind treatment and to join family ties.
“...and fear Allah , through whom you demand your mutual (rights), and (reverence) the wombs (That bore you): for Allah ever watches over you.” (Quran, 4:1)
With in the Messenger of Allah (sallalahu ‘alayhi wasallam) we find the most perfect example in his teachings of how to work towards an ideal family life. We learn from his life that he would exemplify the most beautiful character (akhlaq) towards his family. His character was an embodiment of mercy, affection, patience, gentleness, kindness, love, commanding the good and forbidding the wrong with wisdom and beautiful teaching and preaching, spending quality time...to name a few.
By renewing our intention and reflecting on this tremendous gift of family we would appreciate even more those around us. Being mindful of the golden rule, “treat others in the way you would like to be treated”, forms part of excellent character which shall be the most weightiest in the scale of good deeds for a Believer on the day of judgment.
Ways of building a strong family foundation:
Effort towards acquiring Islamic knowledge (includes daily reading as a family)
Company of the Righteous (an environment to practice)
Meals together (as much as possible)
Family time (weekly activity)
Effort on our Akhlaaq (controlling anger- and the heart to forgive and the spirit to serve) understanding the others perspective, active listening, making time out for one another.
Du’a for guidance
May Allah Ta’ala bless us with the Akhlaq of the Messenger of Allah (sallalahu ‘alayhi wasallam) and make us strong as individuals, families, communities and as an Ummah-ameen.